Last week in "How Do I Know If We Have "Chemistry"? I blogged about going out with Andy from Eharmony twice, but not yet knowing whether or not we had chemistry. I wanted to have one more date to see if anything developed one way or another between us. Date number two ended with me asking him if he would like to go to Oktoberfest on Saturday with me and him agreeing.
Friday when I called him up to see if he was still up for going out on Saturday, but to Grapefest instead (we both are self-proclaimed winos), he said "I have to help my friend with something on Saturday, but if we get done early enough I might be able to go." Later that afternoon, I received a text from him stating that he could not go to Grapefest because he was helping a friend move.
Moving? MOVING?? Even Princess Tartini is smart enough to know that if a guy chooses to help a buddy move over going out with a girl, that this is not a good sign. Nobody likes moving. In fact, people make up all kinds of excuses why they can't help a friend move. They don't readily volunteer for moving duty unless they have another obligation that is even worse than sweating up three flights of stairs while balancing a sleeper sofa on your head. So I got it. Really I did. Andy was giving me the passive aggressive "I'm just not that into you" kind of excuse. Fine . . . moving on.
Until . . . .Monday at 12:18 via text message: From Andy: How was ur weekend?
Umm, how do you think my weekend was? Fun except for the fact that I thought we had plans and then you blew me off to help a friend move, which I interpreted to mean that you were not interested. Am I wrong? Has my female intuition failed me?
Seriously, how do I respond to this? I am not his friend. I am only two dates in the hole. Is this a friendly, "I kind of feel bad for giving you a bad excuse why I could not see you and now I am trying to make myself feel better by asking you how your weekend was"? If so, then, how about we not play this game. However, if this is a "I really did have to help my friend move despite the fact that I had already told you last weekend that I would like to get together on Saturday," then the answer is still no. I want to be prioritized higher than "I have to help my friend move."
AAAHHHH!! So frustrating! Should I respond to this text message or file it under "not worth my time?"
P.S. For us elders in the community over 16 years of age, "your" is spelled Y-O-U-R, not U-R!
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Ok,first off, he's probably such a bussssy person that he doesn't have time to add a y or o. In fact, you should be grateful that he had time to text you in the first place. 2nd-there's a red flag here - you're correct - no one helps someone move instead of going out with a swf looking for a swm, especially if said swm has paid for the privilege of finding said swf (does Eharmony ring any bells? In case I'm not making myself clear, do not text him back unless it's to tell him you're sitting up with your sick dog.
ReplyDeletehmmmmmm, helping a friend move? yeah not a good line to lay on someone.
ReplyDeleteto me, unless his text mentioned a date in the future i say be done with it. if he would have said, "how was your weekend? sorry i couldn't go but i would love to take you out on X day. Do you have plans?" then I would have responded. Otherwise, i'd me moving along.
xoxo